Attachment Style Test

What is my attachment style?

This quiz explores two dimensions: attachment-related anxiety and attachment-related avoidance. One describes uncertainty about connection; the other describes distance or self-protection around closeness and support. Twelve original statements give you six responses per dimension. The complete result includes both scores, an illustrated map, the answers that produced it, and suggestions you can consider.

You may see a pattern closer to secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, or fearful-avoidant. These are explanatory regions on our map, not four diagnoses. If either score is in the middle band, we show a mixed or boundary result instead of forcing a type. Read the full attachment style guide →

Choose one relationship before answering

Think of one current close adult relationship, such as a partner, close friend, or family member. Keep the same person in mind for every question. You do not enter their name or any identifying details. Mixing several people in a single answer set can obscure the context you want to understand.

You do not need a romantic partner. If you have no close relationship to consider, read the guide rather than guessing how you would feel in an imagined one. A result about one friendship need not describe a partnership. If you retake the quiz for a different relationship, save the earlier card first: a fresh quiz replaces this browser’s previous answers.

Anxiety and avoidance are separate dimensions

Attachment-related anxiety

These statements concern repeated checking, reassurance, and attention to uncertainty about a connection. A higher score does not establish that your concern is unreasonable. Inconsistency in the actual relationship can matter, so consider events as well as expectations.

Attachment-related avoidance

These statements concern distance and comfort with support or vulnerable moments. A lower score can coexist with healthy privacy; a higher score does not mean you lack feelings. The practical question is whether your chosen level of closeness works for you in this context.

Research discussions often describe adult attachment using continuous dimensions. The Fraley lab’s measurement FAQ explains why assigning a fixed category loses information. Our quiz uses original statements; it is not the ECR-R or ECR-RS inventory and has not undergone a validation study.

How we calculate and describe your result

Choose agreement values from 1 to 5. Two anxiety statements and three avoidance statements are reverse-keyed: use 6 minus the selected response. Six keyed values per dimension give a total from 6 to 30. We display (total − 6) ÷ 24 × 100, rounded to a whole number. A total of 18 gives 50/100; a total of 24 gives 75/100.

Below 40 is the lower display region, above 60 is higher, and 40–60 is the middle band. These are our editorial reading aids, not published diagnostic thresholds. The map places avoidance from left to right and anxiety from bottom to top. Neither number is a percentile or a percentage chance that you have a particular style.

Can couples use this attachment style quiz?

Yes, if each person chooses to answer about the same relationship. Share one observation you want to discuss rather than treating a label as an explanation for everything your partner does. A concrete request such as agreeing when to return to a difficult conversation gives more information than saying someone is simply avoidant.

The quiz does not measure compatibility or predict whether a relationship will last. It does not diagnose disorganized attachment, identify trauma, or establish a childhood cause. A label also does not excuse harmful behavior or obligate anyone to accept unwanted closeness. Read an answer in its present context, with room for boundaries and change.

Free results, local progress, and QR sharing

All results are free. No account or email is required. Progress and answers stay in this browser when storage is available; you can review and update them after finishing. The downloaded card shows both scores and a map. Its QR code opens this test with share attribution and includes no individual answers, result scores, or relationship identity.

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